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Eye Contact and Interview Success 11 November 2008 at 5:52 pm by Premium Blogger

There’s an old myth

Look at me, else I don’t trust you.

if you won’t look at me I can’t trust you. It might be true, might be not. But if they believe it, it’s true!

Eye contact is a non-verbal ability to communicate, and it often equals to our ability to verbally express a thought. Maintaining eye contact during your conversation is very important. Eyes can captivate an audience and express what words may not be able to deliver.

An old Yiddish proverb says, “The eyes are the mirror of the soul”, and they are. This is why eye contact is important.

A word is a word, but a word expressed upon the sincerity of the eyes will allow the words spoken to reach the minds of those they are spoken to. Failing to maintain eye contact during a conversation can send mixed signals to the person you are speaking with. It is often construed as a tell-tale-sign that you might not be forthcoming or truthful in what you are saying—liars tend to not keep eye contact.

If the lack of eye contact is not construed as a lie the person may be trying to conceal, it is often perceived as lack of interest or an indication of a short attention span. When you maintain eye contact, you present an air of confidence in yourself and what you are communicating. People who are listening to what you are saying will take you more seriously, and will take what you say as important.

Eye contact can relay our inner most intimate thoughts and desires. It can let the person we are speaking with know our emotional connection and interest in what we are conversing about.

Is your eye contact aggressive, is it soft, is it inviting, do you love with your eyes? Eye contact is a very tricky art to master but vital to effective communication. How can you make it better?

Make sure that your eyes sparkle

It’s all very well having good eye contact at your interview, but if your eyes aren’t looking dazzling and attracted then you’re making life difficult for yourself! Make sure that you have a good night’s sleep your interview.

Remember – this is a very important day – you need to look your best and have no bags under your eyes! If you want your eyes to sparkle then it’s advisable getting some whitening eye drops. It doesn’t cost much but it will work.

One cooperative tip is to imagine the interviewee as someone you feel comfortable with: a intimate member for instance. Picture intellectually how easy it is to  eye contact with this individual and  this normal ease to the interviewee.

Be sensitive not to stare or look wide-eyed as this can give the visual impression of a tense rabbit caught in head-lights; possibly not the exact impression to be giving a potential employer! If an interruption occurs, such as a new individual entering the workplace or a telephone call, drop eye contact to show you manner the interviewee’s privacy. Casually look through some of your report to show this manner actively. If there are several interviewers, the rule regarding eye contact is very easy. Maintain comfortable eye contact with the interviewee addressing you but when you answer, make sure that you look at some fact during your monologue at all the interviewers present.

+ GROUP DISCUSSIONS By Premium Blogger 11 November 2008 at 4:50 pm and have No Comments

Group Discussions (GD):

Many companies and institutes are making Group Discussion as the first criteria for screening the candidates for face-to-face interviews.

Group Discussion: Defined
“Group Discussion, as the name itself indicates, is a group activity carried out by participating individuals. It is an exchange of ideas among the individuals of a group on a specific topic.”

Do’s and Don’ts of Group Discussion::

1) Keep an eye contact while talking:
While having a Group Discussion:, keep an eye contact with every participant of the team. Do not look only at the evaluator.

2) Initiate the GD:
It is gathering a great points if you initiate the GD. But while initiating the GD keep in mind that you have some matter knowledge. Without having knowledge and initiating the topic in scoring negative points in GD and is bad intuition.

3) Allow others members to speak as well:
Interrupting any body while he/she is talking is against rule of good GD, even if you don’t agree with his/her point of view. Instead make some resume and distinct the points when it’s your turn.

4) Speak clearly:
Speak loud and clear but it doesn’t mean that loud. Politeness is their in your voice. Use simple and understandable words. Express your feelings calmly and politely without being aggressive if you are disagreeing with someone.

5) Make sure to bring the discussion on track:
In GD what people do is to take GD out of track of the topic. So if by any such means, group is distracting from the topic or goal then simply take initiative to bring the discussion on the track. Make all group members aware that you all need to come to some conclusion at the end of the discussion. So stick to the topic.

6) Positive attitude:
Have Positive attitude, confidence and positive body language. Do not try to be aggressive and dominate anyone. Show your interest in discussion.

7) Speak sensibly:
People usually do one think that whether they know or not about the topic just they speak and speak insensibly. Do not speak as this just to increase your speaking time. Your thoughts should be sensible and relevant instead of irrelevant speech. Don’t worry even if you speak less.

8 ) Listen carefully to others:
Our great scholars said that – “Speak less and listen more!”. So, Pay attention while others are speaking. This will make coherent discussion and you will get involved in the group positively. With properlistening you came to know what the negative points other say and at your turn you point at those points. You point will surely make people agree with you.

9) No need to go into much details:
Some basic subject analysis is sufficient. No need to mention exact figures while giving any reference. You have limited time so be precise and convey your thoughts in short and simple language.

10) Formal dressing:
As this is the main round of GD so be in your formals. Do not take it casually. No fancy and funny dressing. You should be comfortable while speaking in group. Positive gesture and body language will make your work easy.